I guess it was when my daughter phoned and asked if I was in a better mood, that I realized I must have been really grumpy. Maybe it was because it was my first day back and I SO enjoyed my month off. Perhaps I was just feeling overwhelmed at the work ahead for me.
Trouble is, she wasn’t the only one to notice my mood. As the leader you set the vibe. If you are down, others pick up on that very quickly and join you in the “pity party.” That’s not good. People pick up their cues from you. When we dwell in our mud, we run the risk of getting stuck there and getting everyone else dirty too.
Sometimes I forget that people see my mood as a reflection on them; that they are not measuring up or not valued, instead of it being nothing whatsoever to do with them at all. I can be guilty of this too and then I remind myself that just because I feel it, doesn’t mean it is true. Often I am too quick to blame myself.
And being sensitive has its good and bad points. It is good because you can be empathetic and understand other people, but it can be detrimental when you take stuff personally, something I am working hard not to do, but I am a work in progress, as are many of us.
So I have put a smile on my face. Apologized. And have decided tomorrow is fresh new day. A fresh start.
Company of Women
I have had an eclectic career from running non-profit organizations and being editor of a national magazine, to working for government on women’s issues. In 2003 I launched Company of Women, an organization that supports women in business. A prolific blogger, I also write for the Huffington Post, and several other online publications. I am the author of five books on women and entrepreneurship, and co-author of Good Enough. Embrace who you are. Unleash your brilliance. which is available on amazon.ca In June, 2016 I launched Full Circle Publishing offering one-stop services to get your words out into the world.