You know the one where you work your way through society’s expectations of you – school, university, career, marriage, house and children.

What if that’s not what you want out of life? The list is often others’ expectations for us and it can be hard to not comply and fit in.

Drew Dudley describes the list like “a giant scavenger hunt in which we are handed that list at the very beginning and told to check off as many things as you can, as quickly as you can, because you are competing with everyone else to do it.”

Hmm. “We are, he adds, told if you just work hard enough, it will all pay off in the end. The problem is we never tell how hard is hard enough.”

And it can be especially hard if it is not what you want to do with your life.

In his book This is Day One: A Practical Guide to Leadership that Matters, he asks the reader to ask themselves these questions:-

Am I living up to what’s important to me, or trying to satisfy a list of requirements for my life that have been imposed on me?

Where in my life am I settling?

How far would you be willing to go for the chance to be happier?

To change direction takes courage. Stephanie Dixon, tells young students that she is married to herself. “ You should be most committed to the person you spend your entire life with – you.” To emphasize the point, she has the word “enough” tattooed onto her ring finger. “It’s to remind me that I am enough. I don’t need a ring from someone else to be complete.”

Growing up we are constantly asked what we want to do when we grow up, not who do we want to be?

So I am asking it now – who do you want to be? It’s never too late to start over and lead the life you want.

Anne Day

Anne Day

Company of Women

I have had an eclectic career from running non-profit organizations and being editor of a national magazine, to working for government on women’s issues. In 2003 I launched Company of Women, an organization that supports women in business. A prolific blogger, I also write for the Huffington Post, and several other online publications. I am the author of five books on women and entrepreneurship, and co-author of Good Enough. Embrace who you are. Unleash your brilliance. which is available on In June, 2016 I launched Full Circle Publishing offering one-stop services to get your words out into the world.