Life is like a camera.
Focus on what’s important. Capture the good times.
Develop from the negatives. And if things don’t work out.
Take another shot.
How good a photographer are you? On one vacation I remember taking some photos of the dolphins leaping through the water. It was an exciting moment on the trip but when I got home and looked at the photos, I found that my hand had somehow snuck in and blocked the view and spoilt the photo.
So often we do that in life too. We block ourselves from seeing what is in front of us. We don’t use a wide lens to see what is around us or get close up to get the bigger picture. In other words, we get in our own way.
While COVID has created chaos in the world, it has forced us to look at our lives through new lens. I’ve noticed that many women are using this time to reflect on their lives, asking themselves if their existing life is what they really want. Some are making career changes, leaving a job they didn’t enjoy any more and pursuing a new career path. Others are leaving partners, breaking away from a lonely marriage.
For many, sadly the changes are forced upon them, with the loss of jobs, closing of businesses or actually catching the virus. While these are, without question, negative situations, they may, in time, be the opportunity to take another shot, and to start over.
While you are in the midst of the crisis, it can be extremely difficult to think about what’s next. Understandably, fear, panic and anxiety get in the way. When you have to put food on the table, ensure you have a roof over your head, it’s not so easy to consider different options.
Yet, it could be time well-spent.
One step towards reconciling the new future is to reframe it. The way we talk to ourselves can make a difference. Take my recent conversation with a friend about retirement– an option I felt I should consider, given I will be turning 70 next year.
As she pointed out that’s just a number and who says when you turn a certain age that you need to be put out to pasture.
And after our conversation I saw it differently – it wasn’t retirement, which sounds like the end of the road and one foot in the grave to me, it was about reinventing myself. Now that sounds much more positive and a thought that has potential, after all there’s life in the old gal yet.
But what about you? How can you reframe your current situation? If you had a clean slate, what would you really, really love to do? How can you go about achieving this dream? Perhaps you can take baby steps towards making it a reality.
Like the analogy at the beginning, we are being given the chance to take another shot. What do you see through your new lens? Picture it. Visualize it. And just go for it.
Company of Women
I have had an eclectic career from running non-profit organizations and being editor of a national magazine, to working for government on women’s issues. In 2003 I launched Company of Women, an organization that supports women in business. A prolific blogger, I also write for the Huffington Post, and several other online publications. I am the author of five books on women and entrepreneurship, and co-author of Good Enough. Embrace who you are. Unleash your brilliance. which is available on amazon.ca In June, 2016 I launched Full Circle Publishing offering one-stop services to get your words out into the world.