Imagine overcoming obstacles, knocking down barriers and leading valuable, timely conversations that are a win-win for all.
Winning-waysand rich relationships that are robust and productive come from clear communication. What do we need to do and who do we need to be to become master communicators and have strong relationships?
We tend to first look at others’ behaviors and attitudes, but it is the skillful leader who first turns the lens within, discovering soft spots and ways to build and grow themselves. Becoming a leader whom others want to follow (like potential clients, colleagues or teams) is about understanding the needs and wants of others while meeting your needs and expectations.
Our first order of business is understanding our mindset and attitudes and the impact they have on our personal and professional lives. If you’re in a leadership position in business, or you’re a community builder or an entrepreneur, you too will find these grit- and grin-building tools valuable.
Your mindset is your belief of the world, how you perceive the world and how you fit into the world. It shapes your thoughts, forming beliefs, attitudes and behaviors that create your actions.
Psychologist Carol Dweck of Stanford University wrote about two mindsets. A fixed mindset is rigid in belief and action and believes that basic characteristics, like intelligence, are a measure of success or failure. There is a continual push to prove oneself, as failure is seen as a negative. On the other hand, the growth mindset is flexible, believes in hard work, seeks to excel and doesn’t avoid failure, using it instead to improve.
Here are important questions to ask to help understand your obstacles and grow your opportunities:
- Which is your operating mindset?
- How does it serve you?
- What’s needed or possible to change or improve?
Your mindset is one of the points on your compass, but not the only one. A positive mindset leads to resilient, gritty behavior. Resilience works in tandem with a flexible mindset, where obstacles are course-corrections rather than roadblocks.
Your attitude carries a lot of weight too. Preston Ni of Psychology Today talks about different negative attitudes and their impact on personal and professional life. Here are eight warning signs of harmful attitudes and how to bust obstacles and build your strengths:
1. Negative self-talk
2. Negative assumptions
3. Negative comparisons
4. Negative ruminations about the past
5. Dealing with difficult people
7. Neglecting to forgive yourself
8. Fear of failure and making mistakes
Being a leader whom others want to follow takes personal grit and strength.
Though it may sound challenging, it’s very doable. Our greatest strengths are being resilient, having a growth mindset and a positive, can-do winning attitude. Take time to discover your soft spots and grow them. And remember to celebrate your strengths and winning ways. Let’s keep you on track for more success and a bigger life.
Coach Christine/Fusion Enterprises
Coach Christine’s talks and programs are designed with ROI top-of-mind. Many companies who leverage her services produce significant results transforming culture, improving skills and competencies while impacting the bottom line.
She is known for creating quick and lasting results in business, communication, relationships, sales and leadership at work and home.
Christine is an award-winning business woman and a contributor to publications of the Forbes Coaches Council.